Your Priorities

It has been many many months since I have written on this site, perhaps it is because life is always so busy and other things always take a priority.  Writing I think is the best way to keep you grounded and for me aware of what is going on in my internal environment.  Thank you everyone who reads this site, my goal has always been to put something positive out there to help someone.  Perhaps the thought this week is to think about your priorities and what is important to you.  It is important to nurture what you love ❤️ and to have balance in all things that you do.  I do enjoy this blog and it is time to get back to my weekly writing.

Enjoy your week everyone and think about what is important to you and how you prioritize it😀

~Sara

Changing World

Serenity Prayer

Serenity Prayer

• God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,
• courage to change the things I can
• and the wisdom to know the difference.

The above prayer can mean a lot of things to different people.  I first learned about it in Al-Anon.  It is used to teach us what we can control and what we can’t, this is especially difficult when you are dealing with a family member suffering from addiction.  You think you can control the addict and their behavior so that you can fix things, but really I learned the only thing I can control is my thoughts, feelings and actions.  I used to use this prayer to help me realize what I should do and what I shouldn’t do when dealing with my addicted relative.  I found it very helpful in piecing my life back together.  When you are so involved with an addict your life can spiral out of control and you can feel very powerless.  This prayer helped me to understand my place and that it is okay to have boundaries.

Sometimes I think about this prayer when I am feeling the pressure of day to day life.  I will tell myself to also remember that I am doing the best I can with the situation.

I would enjoy feedback if anyone else ever uses this prayer.  Please send me a comment 🙂

 

~Sara

 

Detachment

What is detachment?  I see it as a way of pulling back so that you don’t get hurt or caught up in the drama.  It is necessary when you need to protect yourself.  Buddha looked at detachment as a way to protect oneself from suffering.  Detachment is neither kind or unkind, it is neutral.

If you are involved with someone who has issues with addiction it is necessary to detach so that you do not get caught up and become sick with the addict.  Over the past few months I have been struggling with this.  There is someone I love very much who is an addict and I have had to learn to detach so that I can bring some normalcy and control back into my life.  I have had to learn what I can and can not control.   This is not easy and you can very easily attach again and try to fix something which is not in your control to fix.  I have to keep reminding myself that I control what I say, feel and how I behave.  I have had to learn what is my problem and what is not my problem.  It is very easy to lose yourself when dealing with an addict.  What has been very helpful to me is this quote, “You yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection” ~Buddha   In dealing with addiction I have to remember to care for myself as well, this is also very important if you are a caregiver.  Caregivers tend to give the best to their patient and lose sight of caring for themselves.

On the brighterside I am thankful for the lesson I am learning and I know that this only makes me stronger.  Life can be a struggle but when you pull through you can look back and see how much better you have become as a person.

 

~Sara

 

Making Peace

As I travel through life I have learned through experience that the best thing you can do for peace of mind and a healthy body is to make peace with the past.  It is not in our best interest to hold on to past grudges or things that make you angry or sad.

Sometimes there may not be a resolution with others but in helping yourself you have to find a way to move forward and to let it go.  This is never an easy process but one of the first steps is the accept what happened and your responsibility with it.  You may also have to find a way to forgive either yourself of the other person.   Also try not to think or obsess about what has happened since that sucks the joy out the moment you are in now.

Sometimes it just takes time for something or someone to heal and move forward.

Remember you are doing it for yourself not someone else.

~Sara

 

 

Take time to relax

With summer on its way I want to encourage everyone to take time out of their busy schedule and just relax.  Do something you enjoy no matter how silly or simple.  Relaxing helps the body and soul replenish itself.  You will feel renewed and refreshed after a break.   Hope everyone has a happy summer.  ~Sara

2013 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,100 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 52 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Radio Show Tomorrow

Just wanted to share that I will be on an internet radio show with one of my friends tomorrow at 11:30 am EST.   I feel very blessed to have been offered this wonderful opportunity.  Please check out the link posted below.  I would love to have you join us.  The show is Authors On The Air with Lori Hayes.  Here is a little bit of what the show will be about.

It’s time to get ready for the Holiday’s on Behind the Words. Authors Rhonda Plumhoff and Sara Wales join host Lori Hays to share their unique books with our listeners.

Rhonda writes amazing cook books. Featured on today’s show will be her Literary Chocolate and Exotic Treats, with recipes based on characters from today’s most popular books! Rhonda also is a swag artist. She creates beautiful jewelry and other gifts featuring popular book covers and characters, perfect for the hard to buy for readers in your life!

Sara Wales is a wife and mother who enjoys writing, reading, gardening and psychology. She also enjoys helping and inspiring others. She has recently written her first inspirational book called“A Little Dose of Sunshine With Some Rays of Thought to Ponder” Her goal was to add a little positivity into the world. What inspired Sara to write her book was her facebook page called “On the Brighter Side”. She received such wonderful feedback from her fans that she decided to combine her facebook page into a little book to share with the world!

 http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authorsontheair/2013/12/07/great-books-for-holiday-gifts-on-behind-the-words

I now have my book available on paperback as well as Amazon and Kindle, it you are interested please send me an email or message me here.  The book is $7.95  plus $5 for shipping and handling.  I am using PayPal to take payment, you can even use it if you don’t have a PayPal account.  My email is   sara-wales@hotmail.com

Thank you and I hope you can join me tomorrow.  ~STAY POSITIVE    Sara

 

Happy Thanksgiving

Here we are again my favorite holiday. I don’t have to buy gifts, fuss with wrapping them or be concerned if people will like their presents.  No hussle no bussle.  Just a wonderful time to relax enjoy good food and loving family.   I also like to use this time to reflect on all the things I am grateful for such as my health, family and my home.   Not just Thanksgiving but everyday it is important to take a moment to be thankful for what you have.    Life is full of so many changes and challenges it is important to enjoy and be thankful for where you are and what you have.   Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday and THANK YOU for taking the time to read my blog.

~STAY POSITIVE

Sara

Opinions

Over the past few days I have been thinking about other peoples comments.  It occurred to me that we give a lot of power to others opinions and what they have to say.  A friend of mine wrote a wonderful story had 43 5 star reviews and 6 one star reviews and his focus was on the 6 one star reviews, Why?  I was listening to a friend tell me that her party felt ruined when a friend commented on how much weight she had gained.  Why did she focus on that and allow it to ruin her party? Why do we say we have had a terrible day when really it was just a few terrible moments?

I want to express that our focus should be on what is positive not what is negative.  We are also blessed with the power to control how we want to feel about others opinions and comments.   What people say and do is a reflection of who they are and usually has nothing to do with you.  Remember it is your opinion that really matters.